What often frustrates and derails the spiritual student is the quandary of how to live all the things learned along the path. The purpose of this blog is not to ask anyone to change a belief but to help those who are intent in their pursuit of living in alignment with their beliefs to put those ideals into their real lives.
It’s time to take a look at
self-limiting definitions.What are
they?They are the “stories” we have
accepted and tell ourselves that shape our view of who we think we are.They are the lenses through which we view our
life experiences and which limit our thinking and perspective.Self-limiting definitions are the boxes
around our potentiality and possibility. In truth, they are our pre-judgment/prejudices
of our lives.
Here are some of the “greatest
hits” that I have heard over and over throughout the past few years.
·I am an adult child of an alcoholic/drug
·I grew up in an
was a tyrant.
·My family is
predisposed to alcoholism, diabetes, cancer, obesity, etc.
·Nothing I ever
did was good enough for my Mother/Father.
·Nothing I ever do
is good enough for my wife/husband.
·I had to fight
for everything I had when I was growing up.
·I grew up in a
·I had a single
parent and he/she was never around.
·I was bullied/abused/beaten
as a child.
·My parents were
strict Catholics/Jews/Lutherans/Democrats/Republicans and I was raised that
·I was never
allowed to do what I wanted to do; I always had to do what my
mother/father/wife/husband wanted me to do.
And here is the “kicker”,
this also applies to past-life and metaphysical stories as well.
·I was burned as a
·I was a
Queen/King or peasant/slave
·I am a
·I am a Starseed
·I am a walk-in
Now, here’s the thing.BOTH this life’s story and past lives’
stories are the same.They are ALL in
the past, and have NOTHING to do with NOW.
BUT, you say, “I really did
grow up with…..in…have….”That may
indeed be the circumstances as you know them to be, but again, that was then
and now is now, everything that is of the past that you allow color your “now”
is by function a self-limiting definition.
Over 20 years ago I channeled
a teaching which my husband called “The Last Lesson” (one of the founding
principles of the Avatar Program).The
summary statement for that lesson is:Live your life empowered by YOUR choices and
conscious intent, at absolutely NO effect of outside influences. And that, dear ones, most assuredly includes
self-limiting definitions of who you think you are.
The opportunity before you is
to 1) identify any and all self-limiting definitions that you have, 2) examine
how they affect all of your thoughts and actions about absolutely everything in
your life, 3) try to imagine what your life would be like if you released these
self-limiting definitions, and then 4) live in such a way that you are no
longer at effect of these limitations.
I will “warn” you that this
is one of the most “difficult” exercises I have asked you to tackle.Why?Because these self-limiting definitions are very intricately tied to the
picture of who we think we are.In
short, we simply never ever think of ourselves without their influence upon our
lives.To try to imagine letting them go
often engenders fear – fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of loss of
identity.Please realize that all these
fears are self-limiting definitions in and of themselves.
Why would I want you to take
on such an exercise?Because it is the
key to the doorway of all you can be – your unlimited potentiality of the truth
of who you are – and truly unlimited being.Freedom will be the kingdom in which you live.And the benefits of living in the kingdom of
Freedom are unlimited love, peace and joy.I could not wish more for you than that.
Please remember – I am always
here if you need assistance or clarity, and I hold you in my heart at all time.With great love --