What often frustrates and derails the spiritual student is the quandary of how to live all the things learned along the path. The purpose of this blog is not to ask anyone to change a belief but to help those who are intent in their pursuit of living in alignment with their beliefs to put those ideals into their real lives.
The first that I ever heard
of the concept that thought creates came from the book Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz, which came into my life 43 ½ years
ago.Over the ensuing decades I have
studied and taught this concept by various names – prosperity thinking,
positive thinking, creative visualization, manifesting, law of attraction – and
with various methodologies for support – affirmations, goal setting, creating
dream boards, etc.The general public
has moved from As A Man Thinketh to The Secret.Regardless of what it is called, or how it is
practiced, the basis is the same… THOUGHT = CREATION/MANIFESTION.
BUT HERE’S THE KICKER:EVERY
Too many times over the years
I have heard variations of:
“I said my affirmations for 20 minutes,”
“I worked on my goals/dream board for 30 minutes,”
“I read 2 chapters in my positive thinking book,” BUT
“I still am not getting what I want”, or, “S*%#% still
To which I reply, “Well, DUH…..what
are you doing the other 23 hours 30 minutes of the day?”
There seems to be some “hope/thought”
that only the things one thinks during the 30 minutes of dedicated “work” will
manifest and every other thought has no ramifications.NOT TRUE!
THE “X-FACTOR”:Emotion is the rocket fuel for thought.Every time you add emotion to the equation
you multiply the potentiality for manifestation.The more intense the emotion, the greater the
One of the most important
steps in mastering this process is learning the value of “Neutral”.I have used several metaphors to try to help
people understand this process, i.e.,“Consider
the thoughts that pass through you mind as you would visitors to your
door.Some you invite in with open arms,
and some you do not let pass the door.” – You don’t become angry at the ones
you do not let in, you simply say “no thanks” and let them be on their way.
During these times of
heightened energies and manifestation, it is my personal belief that there is
NOTHING more important that being mindful of what thoughts you embrace and
energize and what you are in truth creating.But sometimes it is just near to impossible to jump from negative thoughts
to positive thoughts.This is where
Neutral becomes a higher value.To this
end, I have adopted what I call the Spiritual Hippocratic Oath:
ABOVE ALL ELSE…..DO NO HARM
Remembering that ALL thoughts
create! Make it a priority to see that
you do not entertain or energize anything that you do not want to manifest in
your life.If you find yourself embroiled
in negative thinking of any kind, seek to neutralize those thoughts.That means to take away all the energy
on said thoughts.Remove all
emotions and do not allow yourself to wallow in those thoughts.Just be neutral.In effect, create nothing…in as much as
A very dear friend just made
his transition from physical to non-physical, which is the impetus for this
writing.I want to share with you
something that has been going on for me for some time.This may be a little lengthy, but please hang
in there with me.
A little back ground – I have
two friends…one female (let’s call her “Missy”) and one male (let’s call him “Mister”).Each is ½ of a couple that are near and dear
to Don and me.I’ve known each for well
over 2 decades and am quite familiar with not only their spiritual beliefs but
their spiritual practices.In fact, I
have channeled for both on many occasions.
It is “Mister” who has just
transitioned.He was one of the kindest
and most gentle souls I have ever met.A
dedicated metaphysical student, he read incessantly, listened to tapes,
attended seminars, studied A Course In Miracles and meditated hours at a
time.More than that, he really altered
his thinking and general outlook on life and he was a blessing to everyone he
met.He bravely and good-spiritedly
battled Hodgkins for the last several years.I know for a fact that he believed in the unseen, in the power of
thought and in the Galactic Federation.I also know for a fact his intention was firmly set and never wavered in
his desire to be here for Disclosure and the New Awakening.And yet, he is no longer with us in the
“Missy” was raised a
Christian Scientist and has always been an ardent metaphysical student.She and her husband have created wellness
centers and have served the health conscious community for years.A few years ago “Missy” suffered an accident
which has left her in unbelievable pain.Misdiagnosed for a long time, the general consensus now seems to be she
has some kind of brain injury.She is in
constant pain – it hurts to lie down, to sit, to stand, to open her eyes.“Missy” has access to every kind of healer in
the metaphysical community and she has utilized everyone she can.She has used traditional medicine, Chinese
medicine, Christian Science healers and even spent weeks in a Christian Science
clinic.She knows more about metaphysics
than just about anybody I know and she is diligent in her application of her
beliefs.And yet, she still suffers in
To say that I have spent
literally thousands of hours meditating about, praying for and praying about
these two friends would still be an understatement.Although I am well aware that these are their
journeys, those said journeys have at times caused me to truly question my
beliefs and my faith.I have asked for
answers, lessons, guidance, words for comfort for them…..ANYTHING.One of the reasons I have not written about
this sooner is that I keep hoping that I will have some clarity all of a
sudden.That I will understand.That I can help.After all these years of contemplation and
meditation on the subject, I still keep coming up with the same very
unsatisfying answer…….which is…..
It must simply be a matter of
Karma.Nothing else, NOTHING ELSE makes
any sense.Tied to that is the lesson
about judgment.I am forever being told “you
don’t have the perspective to judge”.What I’ve come to know about that statement is this:Unless you know EVERY thing that has EVER
transpired in that soul’s journey, including the effects of ALL of its journey
on every other soul, and unless you know EVERY thing that will EVER happen to
that soul in its on-going, including the effects it will have on ALL other
souls it will ever encounter, then you do not have the perspective from which
to judge.And, as it has been revealed
to me, only God and Holy Spirit have that perspective.Hence, “you just don’t know enough to have an
opinion or judgment”.
As “Mister” was coming into
his final days, I also realized that it was quite possible that what I viewed
as his “suffering” and the “unfairness” of the situation might well be the very
last thing that he needed for soul ascension.(I feel pretty safe in saying that I don’t think Mafu would have chosen
to be a leper, Ramtha to spend 7 years in pain on a rock, or Jesus that whole
cross bit if they could have had a conscious choice.)What I had to settle for was that I do not at
the present time have the perspective to “know” or understand why “bad things
happen to good people”.And I want you
to know, it is a personal struggle to be “satisfied” with that.My ego wants an answer to “why”.My heart wants to give comfort. My True Self wants to live in the knowledge
that there is nothing “wrong”, and that one day I may have “eyes to see”.Until that time, all I can do is offer my
unbounded love to “Mister” and his dear wife and to “Missy” and her dear
And, my love is given freely
to all of you -- JOAN
(This is being written in
response to questions and remarks initiated by the posting of “Convergence of
There seems to be some
confusion regarding “do your best” and “perfection”.So let’s discuss that a little bit.
I certainly did not mean to
imply that one should set out to be the world’s best/perfect anything – Olympic
champ, entrepreneur, corporate giant, mother/father, or anything else.I did mean that one should endeavor to do “your”
best at all times.It can often be that
the person who came in 10th place and did their best was more
successful than the person who came in 3rd and slacked off.This is NOT about being “perfect” or #1 in
all things.It IS about being present
and conscious in whatever you do and not doing anything by half-measures.
Although it is important to
do one’s best at whatever activity one is engaged in, the truer interpretation
of the previous writing is this – You at Your Best is an aspect of the Creator,
and it is THOSE aspects that have no quarter-sanction.There are no degrees of love, peace, joy,
kindness, allowing.(One either IS or is
NOT.)THOSE are the areas wherein it is
important to be YOU at YOUR BEST – the best defined here at the Spiritual Being
that you are.
I know the bar is high, but
then, who wants to aim low?
This morning I had an
epiphany as a result of the confluence of three things:
1)Contemplation about a documentary called “Kumare”
2)The phrase:“Do You”
3)And, the 4th Agreement, “Always Do
KUMARE:I few days ago I received the following email
from Jo Baner:
“Art and I watched a movie last night called
"Kumare". It's a documentary of a guy that was trying to prove that
anyone can be a guru just by faking it....or something like that.
Anyway, this is the best example of what "living
your Avatar" is all about. I was amazed. Even the guy who did this found
that the outcome was not what he expected. All through the film I was
thinking....."he's living his purpose and he doesn't even realize it
And so, I streamed the
documentary on Netflix and was profoundly affected.In fact, I just let myself float for days
asking to be shown everything there was to know about this.Last night I watched it for the second time,
and again, the light bulbs kept flashing all night.
I may write more about this
in the future, but I wanted you to know about the documentary as it was the
playing field for everything that followed.At this point, I think I could do a weekend seminar on all that has been
revealed for me.
And yes, it is an excellent
example of living one’s Spiritual model.
DO YOU:For years I have been asked some form of “What
do I do?”It may have been phrased as
wanting to know what kind of meditation, asana, diet, exercise, spiritual
practice or just “What is my mission/purpose in life?”If I tried to respond with “It isn’t what you
do, but how you do it,” or “Just Be” I was most often greeted with blank
In the past few years the
phrase “Do You” has become popular.But,
you see, the trick is which “You” do you “Do”?Is it the one that was molded by your parents, environment and limited
thought?Or is it the one that is your
true spiritual self?
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST:For years I have thought I
understood and applied this, the Fourth Agreement (Four Agreements, Don Miguel
Ruiz).And I have taught this in many
informs, including an understanding that some days your best is better than
others.But then this morning, this
phrase turned in to….
ALL-WAYSDO YOU-R BEST
And here is where the
confluence of thought happened.
It occurred to me that I have
never heard Spirit say, “Forgive me, but I’m having a bad/off day today and I’m
just not at my best.” Or, “Sorry, I’m doing my best, but I’m just not up to
par, I’ll do better next time.”
Again, the trick is YOU(R)
BEST.And what else could that be but
your Spiritual Self applied at ALL times in ALL things that you DO with no
excuses or expectations of a “day off” from being that BEING that is the truth
of who you are.
1)Have I, in any way, lowered my expectations of
what my Spiritual Avatar would be like?Have I, in any way, given myself some “excuses” for “only being human”?
patterns do I allow in my mind that I would not expect to hear from the Mind of
3)And finally, here
is the kicker:
realized it is time to draw a line in the Universal sand.On one side stands the Spiritual Aspirant –
one who studies and practices Spiritual expression, and on
the other side stands the Spiritual Being – one who IS Spiritual expression.And
the time, it appears, has now come to decide on which side shall I stand.
It’s time to take a look at
self-limiting definitions.What are
they?They are the “stories” we have
accepted and tell ourselves that shape our view of who we think we are.They are the lenses through which we view our
life experiences and which limit our thinking and perspective.Self-limiting definitions are the boxes
around our potentiality and possibility. In truth, they are our pre-judgment/prejudices
of our lives.
Here are some of the “greatest
hits” that I have heard over and over throughout the past few years.
·I am an adult child of an alcoholic/drug
·I grew up in an
was a tyrant.
·My family is
predisposed to alcoholism, diabetes, cancer, obesity, etc.
·Nothing I ever
did was good enough for my Mother/Father.
·Nothing I ever do
is good enough for my wife/husband.
·I had to fight
for everything I had when I was growing up.
·I grew up in a
·I had a single
parent and he/she was never around.
·I was bullied/abused/beaten
as a child.
·My parents were
strict Catholics/Jews/Lutherans/Democrats/Republicans and I was raised that
·I was never
allowed to do what I wanted to do; I always had to do what my
mother/father/wife/husband wanted me to do.
And here is the “kicker”,
this also applies to past-life and metaphysical stories as well.
·I was burned as a
·I was a
Queen/King or peasant/slave
·I am a
·I am a Starseed
·I am a walk-in
Now, here’s the thing.BOTH this life’s story and past lives’
stories are the same.They are ALL in
the past, and have NOTHING to do with NOW.
BUT, you say, “I really did
grow up with…..in…have….”That may
indeed be the circumstances as you know them to be, but again, that was then
and now is now, everything that is of the past that you allow color your “now”
is by function a self-limiting definition.
Over 20 years ago I channeled
a teaching which my husband called “The Last Lesson” (one of the founding
principles of the Avatar Program).The
summary statement for that lesson is:Live your life empowered by YOUR choices and
conscious intent, at absolutely NO effect of outside influences. And that, dear ones, most assuredly includes
self-limiting definitions of who you think you are.
The opportunity before you is
to 1) identify any and all self-limiting definitions that you have, 2) examine
how they affect all of your thoughts and actions about absolutely everything in
your life, 3) try to imagine what your life would be like if you released these
self-limiting definitions, and then 4) live in such a way that you are no
longer at effect of these limitations.
I will “warn” you that this
is one of the most “difficult” exercises I have asked you to tackle.Why?Because these self-limiting definitions are very intricately tied to the
picture of who we think we are.In
short, we simply never ever think of ourselves without their influence upon our
lives.To try to imagine letting them go
often engenders fear – fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of loss of
identity.Please realize that all these
fears are self-limiting definitions in and of themselves.
Why would I want you to take
on such an exercise?Because it is the
key to the doorway of all you can be – your unlimited potentiality of the truth
of who you are – and truly unlimited being.Freedom will be the kingdom in which you live.And the benefits of living in the kingdom of
Freedom are unlimited love, peace and joy.I could not wish more for you than that.
Please remember – I am always
here if you need assistance or clarity, and I hold you in my heart at all time.With great love --
Judging by some of the
responses that I’ve received from the Blessings writing, i.e. “I’ll do that
next time I go to the store” or “I might even try that in a restaurant”, it
would appear that I did not make the point very clear.The instructions were to apply the blessing
to any and all things.For example;
1)You turn on your computer to write an
email.Think of all the hands that made
that happen – the designer of the computer, manufacturer, transportation,
salesperson, and all that went into the software.Then realize the same depth with the
internet.And by the way, what about
those responsible for your house, the electricity, the desk, your chair?
lowly toothpick.How many hands were
involved in getting that toothpick from the forest to you?
I can hear you say, “But
Joan, I’m just too busy to do this.”My
answer:yes and no.Of course you are too busy during the day to
do the arduous exercise of considering and naming every single possibility of
everything you touch, see and do.BUT
you do have 1-2 minutes to contemplate just 1 thing.(Don used his beloved Trader Joe’s
If you let yourself embrace
the exercise – truly get into it, you will be astonished at the number of
people that it takes to bring one little piece of your life into being. Once
you let yourself have this in-depth experience, from that point on all you have
to do is look at something and let the kaleidoscoping effect of your mind just
stretch out so that you can embrace and uplift all that have brought whatever
you are contemplating into your life.
It becomes apparent that
hundreds of thousands of people are necessary for you to experience your
day-to-day life.Without them, your life
would be infinitely different.And, what
about all those who support them so that they can do what they do?
The first time I truly did
this exercise I was literally brought to my knees.It was one of the most profound, enlightening
and humbling experiences of my life.I
wept.I understood the introduction
motif of the TV series “Touch”.I saw
not only the interdependence by the absolute intertwining of all lives.I also saw that by asking for the elevation
of consciousness of all those involved there would be a profound effect upon
Then, I was instructed to “reverse”
the process and look at how if I did not turn on the computer, use the
toothpick, eat the chocolate, none of those people would need to exist.And I understood my part in the matrix.
I then heard, “now you can understand the truth behind ‘we
the people’ not ‘we a bunch of folks’ or ‘mankind’ not ‘menkind’ for indeed you
My dear friends, in my 30
years of service (in various forms) to what I now call the Sacred Stream of
Consciousness, I have been given many exercises, meditations and
celebrations.I can honestly say that I
cannot recall any that have affected me as much as this one has.I truly believe that anyone who embraces this
exercise will never be the same again.I
know that I will not – and Don says he won’t either.
In one of Richard Bach’s
books (Don and I dispute which one), he ends with “There is only one of us here,
and it is you.” I think this blessing and prayer for assistance in raising the
consciousness of all involved finally
makes this clear.
With very deep gratitude for
your presence in my life - JOAN
I usually bless my food/meal
and give thanks for it.However, at the
end of what would have been my “usual” blessing, this came through:Bless
those who raised this food, transported it, marketed it and prepared it and may
the souls of all the hands who have touched this food be assisted in raising
their consciousness to the highest level allowed by Universal Law.
Stunned, I asked, “What the
heck was that all about?”And, the
You are used to “praying”
for individuals and identified groups, such as those in Darfur or victims of
tragedies.It is time you realized your
connectedness and interdependence upon all those who impact your life that you
do not know and do not acknowledge.Begin blessing and praying for every individual that impacts your
life.For example, whenever you go into
a store, bless everyone who works there and supplies the store and ask for
assistance in their awakening process.Do this everywhere you go and with everything you do.
will accomplish 3 things:
1)You will find yourself in constant prayer.
become increasingly aware of how every individual in the world affects your
life and they will become precious to you.
3)It will help
with the raising of the collective consciousness, which will help to accelerate
the many things you wish to see manifest.
If you will allow yourself to ponder the implications
of this I think you will see how amazingly profound this simple little thing